Is He Your Boyfriend or Your Idol?
Exodus 20:3-5 NLT
“You must not have any other God but me
and must not make for yourself an idol of any kind or an image of anything in the heavens or on the earth or in the sea. You must not bow down to them or worship them, for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God who will not tolerate your affection for any other gods. I lay the sins of the parents upon their children; the entire family is affected—even children in the third and fourth generations of those who reject me.”
It seems so simple, right? Don’t idolize anyone or anything above God. What we don’t realize is that idolatry is a bit more in-depth than most believe. It’s not just building a golden idol and offering sacrifices to a false God. You can idolize your cellphone, your makeup, your money, and yes, your significant other.
I learned something very important from the most recent “The Praying Woman” post titled: Dear God, Where is my Husband? I had no idea you could turn your significant other into an idol.
Another fact about me is that when I engage myself into a committed relationship; I always make it a point to put him first and me second (which is not the right thing to do). I usually treat the guys I date like a prince lol. I’m very kindhearted, so my wish is to make those I care about feel special. Unfortunately, often times, this means accidentally putting God in second place.
Oops. I didn’t know that I was accidentally idolizing a past boyfriend. I just thought that I was doing what any wonderful girlfriend would do.
Nope. God really wasn’t even in the picture until my ex and I started having relationship issues. Of course by that time, it was already too late.
The post listed above describes idolizing the idea of marriage. Now, I don’t feel I idolize it, but it’s something that I pray for in God’s timing because in order for a marriage to even occur, God has to bring both the man and woman together. Nothing is just by chance.
Everything is God’s original design for you. However, I didn’t learn this until my most recent past relationship. I broke things off, but he did teach me how to become closer to God and to put Him first. Now that I know how to do that, it’s not just my role, but all of ours to follow through with God’s command about not idolizing others or objects.
I’ve just been thinking that the reason that I’m my age and not yet married has to do with me being sick. Honestly, I don’t believe that’s the case anymore. I feel that it’s God’s will to teach me to always put Him first, even when He brings that man into my life. He doesn’t want me to accidentally idolize my husband, when I should focus on Him and Him alone. The rest will follow.
This goes back to the fact that God’s timing is perfect. We can sit here and complain and question about why we women haven’t been given the man who will put a ring on our finger, but we need to ask this question: “Who will I put first? My husband, or God?”
If the answer is not God, then that alone should serve as answer enough about why we are single. God knows that if He was to introduce our husbands to us now, then He would no longer be prioritized. He would be replaced.
God knows everything, and He knows best. So ladies, ask yourself, am I ready to put God first even above the man who will become my husband?
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